Friday, December 12, 2008

I have come to the point that I think this blog has done it's purpose. It let many know about Blake and the people who loved him. It will stand as a memorial to him for as long as the system allows. Anyone who would like to continue posting are welcome to do so. He will always be in my heart and while the hurt has faded, I will continue to miss him everyday. Be well all.

Sincerely,

Todd

Sunday, October 26, 2008

One Year

Tonight brings us to one year since we said goodbye. Every day since then has been hard and every day going forward he will be missed. Life goes on, but he is always with us as long as we carry him in our hearts. To all of you, the Bergman Family sends their love and hopes this year brings more happiness than sorrow.

Saturday, October 25, 2008

Or maybe it was yesterday . . .

How can it be a year since we last saw him, heard him, smiled at him . . . How can it be that time actually passed . . .

A gentleman approached us and expressed sympathy so heartfelt that we asked him whether he had lost a child, too.

"Yes," he replied quietly as he looked down at his shoes. "It was 17 years ago . . . or maybe it was yesterday . . . I can't always tell." And we saw the tears land in the dirt at his feet.

Sunday, October 19, 2008

Blake & Lisa Day

Today would have marked 6 years for Blake and Lisa. We all have our special attachment to him, but this was something that he and Lisa had all their own. A bond that is different from being a son or brother or friend. This is their day.

I spoke to Lisa today and she sounded good and we laughed and she got to hear me handle the craziness of 2 children under the age of 6. I hope it made the day a little easier.

Saturday, October 11, 2008

Brett's Birthday

Today is Brett's 15th birthday and it makes me realize how fast my kids are growing up and also how Blake will never be there to see them grow up. While I am happy to see my kids growing and maturing, it's depressing to realize someone special to them does not get to be a part of that anymore. I guess my point is we should be grateful for each and everyday we still have with each other and know that somehow/someway Uncle Blake is still a part of our lives. Thanks for all the "sunny" birthdays Blake, I know you are controlling the weather.

Laurie

Tuesday, September 23, 2008

Fatmans

To all that participated in the fundraiser thank you all. There is no way our goal could have been accomplished without your support.
I believe Blake would be so proud of what we accomplished in his name.

We were able to raise (after expenses) over $45,000.
Therefore, we are able to fund a research grant in Blake's memory through The Sarcoma Foundation of America. As I receive more information about this process I will provide updates.

A very special thank you to Alan & Jackie Cadkin, Steve & Laurie Cadkin, Adam & Debbie Goodhart and Michael & Dina Nanberg, their extremely generous donations helped us to achieve our goal.

Thank you to Gayle and Lew Hirsch for their very generous donations, solicitation of prizes and for helping to wrap all the raffle and silent auction prizes

Thank you to Jackie Cadkin who helped me to organize and number each and every raffle and silent auction item, then correspond them each into a log book and then coordinate names and numbers with who won each individual item. The log book was enormous in helping me to keep all prizes organized.

Thank you to Laurie Cadkin for all her help in soliciting donations, printing invitations and collecting donations. Speaking to her on a daily basis helped me to cope with the whole process

Thank you to Jacqueline Hirsch who donated numerous wonderful tickets for purchase at the silent auction.

Thank you to Elizabeth Hirsch for helping me to solicit donations.

To my husband Steve Newland who had to live with me and listen to me during the entire process, he deserves a medal, he knows I can complain!!!! Steve was always behind my efforts and let me use his office and supplies for all the printing and xeroxing I needed to do.
So thank you to him too.

To my brother Steven, you were my inspiration, whether you know that or not. I felt you needed to do the fundraiser so at times when I was overwhelmed, wanted to quit or push it back, I knew you wanted to persevere, so I did. You inspired me to do something great and positive with my time and you were always there for me. I love you and would do anything for you.

If I left anyone out, forgive me, I do appreciate everything everyone did to make the fundraiser a success

It has been a almost a year since Blake passed away and at some point during every single day certain memories come back to me and they are just as painful. I now have the memory of taking action against the horrible disease that took his life and while it does not make things better, it makes me proud to try and prevent it from happening to others. I hope it does the same for all of you as well.

It does not matter how big or small the things we do, but the fact that we do them at all and try to make the world a better place. Thank you Blake for showing us a way to do so.

Your sister, Laurie

Thursday, September 18, 2008

Thank you, B.J.

I was going to send this as an email to all of the people who helped put together the fundraiser but then I realized this would be the perfect forum.

Hello everyone,

I sent a “Thank You” card to Gibsons with a handwritten note and I thought I’d share it with all of you (luckily - I’ll spare you my handwriting). Also I want to thank each and every person for their hard work, the event was obviously a tremendous success and I am proud I was a part of it. I especially want to thank Laurie N. and Stevie; you two were the driving force of this fundraiser and I just can’t thank you enough. It’s undeniable that Laurie’s goal, which we all share with her, of some good coming out of this tragedy has been achieved. It brings me pride, happiness and many other emotions that a research grant will be named after BJ. I know he'd love it. I know it and not just because the grant will be named after him, although that is nice too, but for the fact that we are in action, making a difference and helping people. Now there's the pepperoni on the pizza!

Furthermore, I want to thank you because this event helped me personally. I still find my emotions are just below the surface and quick to appear, I don’t know if this is going to be for some time to come or if it is permanent- que sera, sera. My point is because of all of you I was able to experience BJ’s first birthday without him with joy, peace and love.

This note started as an email to my family, now that it's on BJ's blog I have a bit more I'd like to communicate. From the bottom of my heart, I thank every individual who came to the fundraiser, donated goods/ services or in any way supports the people I love. The strength, generosity and kindness so many individuals have shared has been absolutely awe inspiring. From our oldest friends to Katie and Debbie, who tragically lost their sister to this disease and immediately choose to attend the fundraiser once they read about it on The Sarcoma Foundation of America site, THANK YOU.

To whom it may concern:

My family and I have been going to Gibsons (Chicago and Rosemont) for as long as I can remember. The consistency in spectacular food and service truly keep us coming back for more but I know your organization doesn't stop there. On September 6th, my brothers and sisters and I held a fundraiser for The Sarcoma Foundation of America and through generous donors such as Gibsons, we were able to raise over $45,000. Thank you very much for your contribution to a cause that is so near and dear to my heart (my brother passed away from this disease last year; he would have been 38 years old on September 6th ).

I’d also like to take this opportunity to specifically acknowledge Liz Dade and Jeanie O’Grady. These women exude the perfect combination of professionalism and warmth I have come to associate with Gibsons. My father and I regularly have lunch together, this is our special time, and for the past few years we have gone exclusively to Gibsons. Why would we go anywhere else? We only want the best.

Again, thank you for your donation and for being a restaurant I look forward to patronizing for many years to come.

Sincerely,

Elizabeth Hirsch

P.S. This was not part of the card but for all of you, Jeanie is the waitress Lewie and I always request and Liz Dade has been a hostess there for years who is the epitome of class. Also, I know the final amount raised will be above $45,000 but I wanted to send a "thank you" quickly after the event so I used that estimate.

Lastly thank you, BJ, for everything you did and all of the gifts you continue to give. Although the boy next door, who was in the same grade as I and truly just a friend, may not have appreciated you picking him up by the scruff of the neck when you found us on the third floor of our house.... I knew, as I watched his feet dangle helplessly, you were simply being my awesome (dare I say protective) big brother.

I love you all so, so much!

Xoxo

Lizzy

Sunday, September 14, 2008

Blake's Brithday

I apologize for the lack of posts in recent months. I have been lazy about my personal blog, but it has been more difficult to post here considering the mounting sadness I feel.

September 6th marked the first birthday since Blake left us. For those of you who were not aware of this, it was also the night of the fundraiser in his name. The Cadkin/Hirsch clan put on a wonderful event and it was great to see faces both old and new. The night was filled with memories and laughter and the kind of fun that Blake would have enjoyed. Sorry you couldn't be with us brother.

To Lisa, Gail, Alan, Jackie, Lew, Laurie, Steven, Jacqueline, Steve, Gordon, Liz, and all of the families and friends who attended that evening and who sent donations, I want to say thank you for making the night a success. Hopefully, this will help others who suffer from this terrible form of cancer to spend more birthdays with the ones they love.

Thursday, July 10, 2008

A Poem I found

Forgive me if this has been posted before. A friend of mine at work had this pinned up in his cube from when his grandfather died and I thought I would share it.

We little knew that morning,
God was going to call your name.
In life we loved you dearly,
In death we do the same.

It broke our hearts to lose you,
You did not go alone.
For part of us went with you,
The day God called you home.

You left us beautiful memories,
Your love is still our guide.
And though we cannot see you,
You are always by our sides.

Our family chain is broken,
And nothing seems the same.
But as God calls us one by one,
The chain will link again.

Monday, June 30, 2008

A little help from my friend

So...about a week ago last Saturday, I had one of those moments that you always hear about, but most of us rarely experience. I am currently training for a triathlon that I have done the last two years in a row and due to the circumstances of the last year, my training did not kick in solid until about 10 weeks ago. I was out on a 6 mile run and about 4 miles into it I started to feel pretty tired. It was hot and I was working pretty hard. I was starting to feel like walking and typically, when the mind wants to give up, that's when your body begins to give up. Now, I think about Blake everyday. I see a movie I know he would of liked or a song comes on that we used to listen to, but at that moment when I was feeling my worst, I was too busy concentrating on not slowing down. It was strange but as I was going along I felt as if a surge of energy had coursed through me. I wasn't tired anymore, in fact my pace quickened and I sustained it right until the end of my run. Now some people don't believe in this stuff, but I have to say that I truly felt that someone was helping me along. Believe what you want, but I think that Blake, as always, had my back. Along the way I felt my eyes well up a bit and I thanked him. It was truly a special moment. I'm just glad he's still checking in on me.

Monday, May 12, 2008

Visit With Blake

Mothers day has come and gone. I was meeting my mom and some others to visit my brother yesterday, my first time since his passing. It was absolutely surreal. As I drove up to park my car, my mom was standing there alone wheeping over his grave. The sky was overcast, the wind was howling, and these big beautiful trees in the distance behind her were rustling with life. It was a moment I will never forget. I was overcome with sadness. I miss so many things about him that I never gave thought to when he was with us. We all hung out with Blake for about a half hour. It was quite peaceful. No suffering, no pain. Just peace. His presence was no doubt felt by us all. Mothers Day, Fathers Day, no holiday will ever be the same. But I am glad I got to spend some time with Blake, and remember...

Love Steven

Tuesday, April 15, 2008

My Birthday

So today is my birthday and it is truly bittersweet. My fondest memories of birthdays past is that Blake was one of the first to call me. It hit me hard that I won't be able to speak to him today, but going off of Aidan's view of Blake being in the Sun, he is giving me a specatacular day. I love you brother and I know you are here with me.

Tuesday, March 18, 2008

Blake, the Foundation, and the Slough

We're getting very close to the Grand Opening of the Interpretive Center at the Six Mile Cypress Slough Preserve in Fort Myers, Florida. Opening ceremonies will start at 10 a.m. on Saturday, April 12.
The Cadkin Foundation is the largest private donor to the construction of this Center. Alan is a charter member of the original committee of seven who decided that it was critical to educate both residents and visitors about environmental issues in southwest Florida. Locating the center at the Slough (say "slew") which is vital to the ecological health of this area was the most practical plan. This committee called itself Friends of the Six Mile Cypress Slough Preserve (often shortened to Friends of the Slough). The Cadkin Foundation donated seed money to start the planning process about seven years ago. Since then, Alan has left the board of directors of the Friends, but Jackie remains a member of the Advisory Board. Aside from being active in the Friends, Alan has just received his 10-year pin as a docent (guide) at the Slough where he takes visitors on 1 1/2 hour guided walks. Jackie has just completed training as a docent and will soon be guiding walks as well.
Because Blake was such an avid reader and self-educator, we felt that supporting the Resource Center at the Slough was a proper tribute to him, and he was very happy when we proposed it to him. The Resource Center will contain a library of books, computer stations, and audiovisual materials to be used initially by Lee County environmentalists, docents, and volunteers. It is our goal to eventually make this center available to the general public, but that will require time and funds. To this end, the Cadkin Foundation has raised over $10,000 from our own donations as well as that of family and friends for The Blake Cadkin Memorial Fund which will be used solely to support the Blake Cadkin Memorial Resource Center. Each item in the Resource Center will have a golden sticker stating that this material was provided by the Blake Cadkin Memorial Fund.
An additional honor within our family comes in the form of the logo for the Friends of the Slough which was created and donated by graphic artist Tammi Cripe. (Tammi is married to Joe Cripe, Jackie's son.) This logo has been described as brilliant, and has provided nearly instant "brand recognition" for the Friends. At the Grand Opening, a representation of the logo with tribute to Tammi as creator and donor will also be presented and permanently displayed at the Interpretive Center.
On Saturday, April 12, at 10 a.m., the Interpretive Center at the Six-Mile Cypress Slough Preserve will officially open. It will be an emotional occasion for the Cadkin clan, and we invite you to join us.
We can provide you with info about nice facilities which are available very near the airport, the Slough, and us.

Friday, March 14, 2008

Part of the Sun

Sorry i have been absent for so long. I assure you Blake has not left my thoughts a single day. I miss him terribly and sometimes the weight presses so hard I can't breath. However, my son Aidan said something to me recently that was so amazing and I thought I would share it.

He told me that because Blake died he is part of the sun. I thought this was a beautiful thought because it means everyday that the sun shines on our face that Blake and any other person we have lost is touching us and filling us with warmth. Kids are so amazing.

Monday, March 3, 2008

Pizza Pizza Pizza

I love pizza. I have tried to deny this, but I can't. It tastes so good.

It makes me happy. Comfort food. Puts a smile on my face.

Pepperoni ooh so colorful and pretty. Yummy to my tummy.

They say it is not good for your health. I beg to differ.

What can be so bad about something so simple.

A smile, a memory, a childhood delight.

I love pizza. Oh yea, so did my brother Blake.

Is life complicated. I think not.

Take a break. Eat pizza. Savor each bite.

You never know. You might enjoy it.

Watching Blake eat his last bites,

you could have sworn, life couldn't have been more right.

Monday, January 28, 2008

CaringBridge

To friends and family:

I know how we were all so appreciative of the communication provided by the CaringBridge website so I thought I would pass this along. There is a mother in Vernon Hills who has been diagnosed with a muscle sarcoma, her family is also using CaringBridge to communicate her progress. Rachel Lieberman is a 7th grader that lives next door to me and she has done the following to help her friend's mother. I have copied the CaringBridge journal entry and put it on Blake's website so that if anyone is interested in buying 1 or more of the bracelets you can do so. The funds raised will go to CaringBridge per request of Julie, the mom who is fighting sarcoma. If you would like me to get a bracelet(s) for you I can do so. They are $5 each. I would like to help support Rachel in her effort to raise funds. I plan on purchasing these bracelets for each child attending Riann's birthday party this year and giving them a note to let them know that the money used to purchase the bracelets is going to help people who are battling cancer. (The bracelets are also inscribed with the word "battle")

Thanks, Laurie

Taken from the CaringBridge website:

I would like all of you to know that the daughter of a friend of Julie and Gregg's has started a fundraiser for CaringBridge (the site we are using to keep you updated). CaringBridge is a not for profit organization which is so helpful to so many people. I am sure many of you have used it before to monitor a friend or loved one. Her name is Rachel Lieberman and she is selling bracelets with the name CaringBridge on them. She would like to ask for a donation of $5 but will accept whatever you would like to give. Please contact Rachel at lieby89@hotmail.com . Thank you for your support!

Sunday, January 13, 2008

Memorial Fund over $10,000 !

We have just received word that the Blake Cadkin Memorial Fund created to support the Resource Center at the Six Mile Cypress Slough has exceeded $10,000. The Cadkin Foundation established the fund, and many friends and family members sent gifts in Blake's memory. Since then, Steve & Laurie Cadkin have made a very generous donation, and contributions are coming in steadily from volunteers and supporters of the Slough. This places Blake's fund in the major donor category, and it will be recognized as such on the Donor Wall of the visitors' building which will be called the Interpretive Center. This building is currently under construction, and the Grand Opening is scheduled for Saturday, April 12.

Friday, January 4, 2008

Tuesday, January 1, 2008

Celebrate Life 2008!

Though there is much to be sad about, I propose that we all dedicate 2008 to celebrating life in Blake's honor. It is very difficult to move on from 2007 as that is the year I truly got to know my brother Blake in a way I could have never known. He was a gift to us all. To acknowledge the passing of 2007 is to acknowledge a future without my brother. That pains me to no end. I miss him enourmously.

To celebrate a new year is quite conflicting to me, but I know Blake would want me and all of us to enjoy life to its fullest and make the most of every moment. That is exactly what I am going to do. I hope that you can all find the strength and courage to do the same. Just remember the courage and strength Blake demonstrated so gracefully when faced with the ultimate adversity life can throw you. And then remember he did it with a smile.

Love Blake's little bro (Steve)