8:22 tonight marked 3 years. Where has the time gone. We all took a moment tonight to remember your courage, strength, and love. Dad reminded us tonight that we need to hit the pause button once in a while and take it all in. Look around and see how lucky we are to just be here each day. To have family, friends, and health. It has been a rough road traveled for us the past year. But then I pause, think of you, and then its all ok...
Miss you very much Bro!!!
Steve
Tuesday, October 26, 2010
Monday, October 26, 2009
2 Years
My brother said it right when he said how surreal it is that you are not here with us. So many times in the last two years I have wanted to pick up the phone and call you and tell you a funny story or just B.S. about some movies, TV, or the fact that I finished a book recently(you know how much of a lazy reader I am). But I can't. While I can always call Lisa or anyone else in your family, it's just not the same. You were one of a kind.
I am comforted by the fact that you did leave such an impression on all the people you knew and loved and that they can understand why we didn't just lose a husband, son, sibling, or friend, but much more. Keep an eye on all of us. As strong as we are and the way we live our lives, it's nice to know there's someone checking in from time to time.
I love you and thank you for being my friend.
Todd
I am comforted by the fact that you did leave such an impression on all the people you knew and loved and that they can understand why we didn't just lose a husband, son, sibling, or friend, but much more. Keep an eye on all of us. As strong as we are and the way we live our lives, it's nice to know there's someone checking in from time to time.
I love you and thank you for being my friend.
Todd
Tuesday, October 20, 2009
Happy Anniversary (technically yesterday), Blake and Lisa
Hi, Blake!
I thought I'd drop you a note. It's a little after midnight, and I left Lisa a note on Facebook on behalf of my family acknowledging your anniversary. I hope my note and referral to a few pics of you in junior high school helped to make her smile on this special day. I didn't know Lisa very well before you passed, but always had the sense that she was special. The fact that you chose to spend the rest of your life with her speaks to the kind of person she is. After all, I know how special you were (and are) and that is a reflection on her. In any case, know that there are many people who continue to look out for her in your absence, and keep her in our thoughts.
You were my brother's best friend, and I know that there have been times when things were pretty rough for him emotionally since losing you. You were also a part of our family, and though your connection with the rest of the Bergmans was secondary to your relationship with Todd we still miss you very much! In a few short days we'll be marking two years since you left us, and while it's become easier to take there are still very tough moments when it all still seems surreal. Know this ... regardless of how much time passes the vitality and love of life you shared with the world lives on and is never forgotten.
We lost our grandmother earlier this year. She lived to 101! I celebrated her life at her funeral and very few tears flowed, though I loved her with all my heart. For you, though, the tears still flow. I still struggle with the senselessness of your death and wish I could make heads or tails of it. I hope that these thoughts reach you, and that you are able to appreciate and enjoy the love that so many continue to express toward you, wherever you might be.
Love,
Steve
I thought I'd drop you a note. It's a little after midnight, and I left Lisa a note on Facebook on behalf of my family acknowledging your anniversary. I hope my note and referral to a few pics of you in junior high school helped to make her smile on this special day. I didn't know Lisa very well before you passed, but always had the sense that she was special. The fact that you chose to spend the rest of your life with her speaks to the kind of person she is. After all, I know how special you were (and are) and that is a reflection on her. In any case, know that there are many people who continue to look out for her in your absence, and keep her in our thoughts.
You were my brother's best friend, and I know that there have been times when things were pretty rough for him emotionally since losing you. You were also a part of our family, and though your connection with the rest of the Bergmans was secondary to your relationship with Todd we still miss you very much! In a few short days we'll be marking two years since you left us, and while it's become easier to take there are still very tough moments when it all still seems surreal. Know this ... regardless of how much time passes the vitality and love of life you shared with the world lives on and is never forgotten.
We lost our grandmother earlier this year. She lived to 101! I celebrated her life at her funeral and very few tears flowed, though I loved her with all my heart. For you, though, the tears still flow. I still struggle with the senselessness of your death and wish I could make heads or tails of it. I hope that these thoughts reach you, and that you are able to appreciate and enjoy the love that so many continue to express toward you, wherever you might be.
Love,
Steve
Sunday, September 6, 2009
Happy 39th Birthday
Happy Birthday Blake! We are all celebrating you tonight. There are going to be 18 of us hollering and laughing at Olive Garden, just as was the case during our frequent visits to you. I know you can picture the scene. Every around us looking at us like we are crazy and super annoying. I can feel you smiling. Though you have changed all of us for ever, we are still the same crazy family, still doing the same crazy things we have always done. That is what I believe caries us through. We are growing older, but still playful kids at heart trying not to take life to serious at times.
As we grow older and raise our own families, you are still front and center on our stage. It is hard to keep perspective when the kids are screaming and making us crazy, but at the end of many days, I think of you. Suddenly, appreciation for what I have overcomes me, though I don't always show it. A little screaming, a little fighting, bid deal. This is life. You have taught me that. I only wish your were here to share our experiences with us. I speak for myself, my wife, and the kids when I say that we all truly miss you deeply. Love ya.
As we grow older and raise our own families, you are still front and center on our stage. It is hard to keep perspective when the kids are screaming and making us crazy, but at the end of many days, I think of you. Suddenly, appreciation for what I have overcomes me, though I don't always show it. A little screaming, a little fighting, bid deal. This is life. You have taught me that. I only wish your were here to share our experiences with us. I speak for myself, my wife, and the kids when I say that we all truly miss you deeply. Love ya.
Thursday, January 8, 2009
Been a while
To my brother,
Up late night and can't sleep. Reminds me of the nights when we were young and oblivous watching late night Dr. Who. I always thought it such a wacky show, but it was you and me watching. Even at our young age, I appreciated the bonding experience we had watching. Such a passion you had. It has been really difficult lately for me to express my feelings as I easily get wrapped up in my life with the kids, family, and all. I have been thinking about you a lot lately and just miss you more than words can say. You were my big brother in every way and I really do miss that. It really pains me to no end that you are not here to live life and enjoy all the things that you love. You are always my inspiration. The courage and strength you demonstrated at the bleakest hours still remains in my every thoughts.
I realize that I really block out a lot of my emotions, but you are there always. For whatever reason, your presence has been close to me lately, perhaps just because I need it. You continue to inspire me and make me want to be a better person. I only wish I could have the strength and courage that you had as you faced imminate death. You showed what true love was all about. Memories fade, but your love and devotion never will. I miss you soo much every day. You were an amazing person and I am so grateful every day that I know that. You truly defined what life was about. I do my best to live and appreciate every day and I hope that I make you proud. I am so proud to have been such an important part of your life and truly appreciate that you let me know that whenever you could.
I remember one of my last visits with you when you were just laying in bed at the hospital watching tv with such energy and vigor. You had a sense that things were bad, but you never let on. You just asked me about work and my kids and my life. You just kept looking at me periodically just appreciating the our presence together. You even asked me about work and what was going on in my life without any concern about your condition or future. You have no idea how much I appreciate that one on one we had that day. My instincts at the time told me that time was precious and to appreciate the moments we has that day. I will never forget. Your look. Your expressions. Your curiousity. Your Love. Unforgettable.
Love your little bro
Steve
Up late night and can't sleep. Reminds me of the nights when we were young and oblivous watching late night Dr. Who. I always thought it such a wacky show, but it was you and me watching. Even at our young age, I appreciated the bonding experience we had watching. Such a passion you had. It has been really difficult lately for me to express my feelings as I easily get wrapped up in my life with the kids, family, and all. I have been thinking about you a lot lately and just miss you more than words can say. You were my big brother in every way and I really do miss that. It really pains me to no end that you are not here to live life and enjoy all the things that you love. You are always my inspiration. The courage and strength you demonstrated at the bleakest hours still remains in my every thoughts.
I realize that I really block out a lot of my emotions, but you are there always. For whatever reason, your presence has been close to me lately, perhaps just because I need it. You continue to inspire me and make me want to be a better person. I only wish I could have the strength and courage that you had as you faced imminate death. You showed what true love was all about. Memories fade, but your love and devotion never will. I miss you soo much every day. You were an amazing person and I am so grateful every day that I know that. You truly defined what life was about. I do my best to live and appreciate every day and I hope that I make you proud. I am so proud to have been such an important part of your life and truly appreciate that you let me know that whenever you could.
I remember one of my last visits with you when you were just laying in bed at the hospital watching tv with such energy and vigor. You had a sense that things were bad, but you never let on. You just asked me about work and my kids and my life. You just kept looking at me periodically just appreciating the our presence together. You even asked me about work and what was going on in my life without any concern about your condition or future. You have no idea how much I appreciate that one on one we had that day. My instincts at the time told me that time was precious and to appreciate the moments we has that day. I will never forget. Your look. Your expressions. Your curiousity. Your Love. Unforgettable.
Love your little bro
Steve
Friday, December 12, 2008
I have come to the point that I think this blog has done it's purpose. It let many know about Blake and the people who loved him. It will stand as a memorial to him for as long as the system allows. Anyone who would like to continue posting are welcome to do so. He will always be in my heart and while the hurt has faded, I will continue to miss him everyday. Be well all.
Sincerely,
Todd
Sincerely,
Todd
Sunday, October 26, 2008
One Year
Tonight brings us to one year since we said goodbye. Every day since then has been hard and every day going forward he will be missed. Life goes on, but he is always with us as long as we carry him in our hearts. To all of you, the Bergman Family sends their love and hopes this year brings more happiness than sorrow.
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